Never Lose Yourself

[Miss_Sonia]

So I was just surfing the net not too long ago when I came upon this little writing from who knows whom...but as I was reading it...It made sense to me. Perhaps it was even a calling to me...

Ladies...and even gents, check it out. It's quite lengthy but well worth the read.

Here it goes...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. (Hallelujah, thank you Jesus!) Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them.

How about that? 

[bboi_chubbyz]

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

i was offended by this...but over all i like it...

[LiL_2MO]

i think i have read this somewhere too...

[pure gamer]

haha...

[Miss_Sonia]

^Hey...hey....hey...koj luag ua dabtsi? Cause it's true, ey?

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

i was offended by this...but over all i like it...

Can you explain? Offended? How so?

[LiL_2MO]

maybe he's talking about this...

"Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. (Hallelujah, thank you Jesus!)"

[Chicken]

Wow. Very nice.  
It's like a lifetime's worth of lecturing compiled into a paragraph.

[kute-nadine]

Sonia!!! I love this!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU! This most certainly helped me out with my dilemma.

<33333333 Nadine!

[asian_boi91]

Sounds like a jerk to me. All I see are "don't"s, which are self-explanatory. We already know the "don't"s, it's the "do"s that are hard. Sonia... You, and many others, already know all this stuff. It just sounds nice they way the wrote it.

[Miss_Sonia]

^ Vash es...like you say...these kind of dudes ruin it for the entire male species. Don't worry, the ladies still heart you all though!

Yes, I'm sure many of us are aware of these don'ts already. But sometimes it just takes hearing it over and over again to click.

My dear Nillie shared a wonder piece on the "do's" part you had mentioned there. And since then, my hope has returned. Do continue to be the good guy! AJA!

Wow. Very nice. 
It's like a lifetime's worth of lecturing compiled into a paragraph.

I'm sure every woman can add one more thing to this piece. What have you got to say, Chicken?

Sonia!!! I love this!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU! This most certainly helped me out with my dilemma.

<33333333 Nadine!

I loved it too. That's why I shared it with my hlubbers. Never know...sometimes we just need this to go about dealing with our problems or choosing which way to turn. Glad it could be of some help to you too. Always keep it in mind. *winks*

[yeramylee]

OMG..I LOVE IT..THX FOR POSTEN IT UP..IM LIKE SO N DA SAME SITUATION RITE NOW N I WISH I WAS JUX STRONG ENOUGH TO DO DAT

[krazyyaj]

funny funny. i think i read this before.

vash its not so much as to do or don'ts but rather people tend to get all lovey dovey and not notice crap.

(lovey is a word? strange... the spellchecker didn't pick it up as wrong.)

[UntouchableMoments]

i love being a modae to guys..haha. i never lose myself to any guys.

[TiMkUv]

^lie!

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